Little Bits Of Life Lived In The Last Month

The last month seems to have left me regrouping, pensive, and generally quiet. I haven’t been interested in saying something just to be heard. Nothing seems worth saying until you own it. I know I’ve said this often, but I’ll say it again: You have to be living if you want to write about life. Sometimes it’s tempting to make it the other way around– speak first, think later. Blog first, live later–that just simply won’t work for me, and I pray it doesn’t for you. The internet can be noisy, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m beyond honored and blessed that you join me here…when I’ve got to much to say…and when I’m still thinking through the hardships and joys in my own life and the world around us.

Here’s a little tour through my month in pictures. Many moments of joy captured, many struggles and heartaches woven in between…and God’s purposes spoken clearly in love even when you may be at a loss for words.

This little Mancub #5 turned 2 at the very end of April…

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The whole fam took him on a train ride up to Santa Fe, just the 8 of us. It was great fun…even if I was only a little more than one week post partum.

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Camera worthy or not…I’ve been trying to take more pics of me with Number 6, even though he’s been a fussy little one, and photogenic moments are scarce.

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The beginning of May found me 2 weeks post partum, but pressing through with a labor of love, a painting to be auctioned at our school’s annual benefit gala…

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These tulips were painted in dark hours of the night and in the early light of day. Instead of bright and cheery blooms, I painted ones that reflected my pensive and quiet mood. I was so thrilled to see it sell for over $1,325…what an honor.

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This was Mr. Simons and I on the night of the event. Maybe I’m over-spiritualizing it, but I sure felt God’s gracious love for me when I found this dress at Dillard’s for a mere $30 on clearance when nothing in my closet fit me. 🙂

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As the weather warmed up, the kids and I made time to head to Grandma’s house, where each of us got to enjoy some R & R…

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I can’t tell you how many games of chicken foot I’ve played with this 4 yr. old. He is a genius at the game, and is equally disappointed at losing. The art of enjoying the game is what we’ve been working on…

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This is one of the few pics we’ve gotten as a family of 8, here, attending a 50s themed birthday party of special friend.

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…and as a side note, Number 5 is definitely in the “terrible twos.” We are intentionally and purposefully combating the tantrums, belligerance, and willfullness emanating from such a small and sweet munchkin. I’ve been down this road five other times, but it really isn’t any easier this time around. Consistency and deliberate training is exhausting! But praise the Lord…I have seen it’s fruit, again and again.

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My dear father-in-law turned 70 this month. It was a joy to host family from near and far for a Sunday dinner in honor of his special day.

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And, finally, as my little one turns 6 weeks old, my parents are now here from California to enjoy quality time with their 10th grandchild. I don’t know what is better than seeing good parents become great grandparents.

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These are just some of the little moments that have happened around here this past month? Not everything that’s worth documenting has to be big. I hope you are taking note of your days in small ways, even if there are seasons when you don’t feel there is much to say and really no energy to process it all anyway. It might be taking all you’ve got just to keep on living genuinely and with purpose. If so, you are in good company; right now–that’s enough for me.

Coming To America and The Breakfast Quesadilla

Coming To America and The Breakfast Quesadilla

My family immigrated from Taiwan to the United States when I was three years old. My parents started a life from scratch, with hardly any English under their belts. I learned quickly, but really didn’t converse fluently until the first grade. Moving to New Mexico furthered the culture shock. My parents did not have much use for tacos, pinto beans, and enchiladas. They were homesick for jiaozi, congee shops, and jian bing–an egg and flour savory pancake sprinkled with chopped green onions. It’s more like a crepe, really. A savory breakfast crepe. Troy and I ate one hot off the griddle at the base of the Great Wall of China. (That may have been the most delicious thing I ate that entire summer. I digress.)

My parents have never made a trip back to Taiwan. The closest thing to jian bing was the making of a breakfast quesadilla with flour tortillas. Chinese folks in New Mexico — they were resourceful. Cultures have common denominators in food and family. Different ingredients and flavors, but common vehicles and values around the table. Homesickness can be the start of new traditions; it’s why I make breakfast quesadillas for my family today. My mom and dad wouldn’t have added the shredded cheese or bits of ham. You may be the sort that adds swiss and mushrooms.

Reinventing themselves, their tastebuds, and dreaming new dreams for their future was not just resourceful; it was brave. I’m understanding that more and more, as we raise a family that chooses some of one culture and some of another. We are seeking to make a recipe for family that is uniquely our own. You’ve gotta make it your own before you can call it home.

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The Breakfast Quesadilla
Recipe Type: Breakfast
Author: Ruth Simons
Prep time: 5 mins
Cook time: 10 mins
Total time: 15 mins
Serves: 2
Ingredients
  • spray oil
  • 2-3 eggs
  • 2 large tortillas
  • 1/2 cup shredded cheese
  • 1/2 cup diced ham (or slices of lunch meat if that’s all you’ve got)
Instructions
  1. Beat the eggs and set aside.
  2. Lightly spray a large non-stick pan, and heat the pan at medium heat. Pour the beaten eggs into the pan, rotating it gently so that the egg is spread evenly over the bottom of the pan.
  3. While the top of the eggs is still wet, gently place a tortilla on top, covering the entire surface of the eggs. Lightly spray the tortilla with oil and let the eggs beneath finish cooking. With a long spatula, test to see that the egg is done. When it is done, carefully flip the egg with the tortilla completely over so that the tortilla is at the bottom of the pan.
  4. Sprinkle cooked egg surface with diced ham, and then shredded cheese (in that order, so that the tortilla will stick). Place another tortilla on top of the cheese. Spray the tortilla with oil once again, and flip the quesadilla one final time so that the other side can also be grilled and golden.
  5. Let cool slightly before cutting into wedges, and enjoy!

 

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When The Family Gathers ‘Round The Table

The last significant time the Lord Jesus spent with his disciples before his crucifixion was over a meal. He chose to memorialize his broken body and spilled blood in the everyday elements of bread and wine.
The table– the family meal— is a significant place of connecting, training, investing, and nourishing more than our physical bodies.

Meaningful mealtimes

On the Good Friday, I’m at Mom Heart today, sharing about meaningful mealtimes around the dinner table, and tips for how to achieve that intentional time. Join me there!

Of Dim Sum and Family Reunions

Several weeks ago, we had an opportunity to make a last-minute trip to Colorado Springs to meet up with my parents who were going to be visiting. Driving 7 hours each way over the course of a weekend was more than worth it for the chance to reunite my parents with my family and my brother’s family…all in one place, at the same time…for a total of 24 hours.

We were so blessed and excited to all be together, we really could’ve done nothing at all but sit around and chat and we would have been happy. But no, we did not sit around. At the top of the list was a family dim sum lunch. Don’t know what it is? You really must find out. It’s like afternoon tea and tapas combined. It IS my love language. 🙂 It’s Chinese culture in a meal: hot tea, small morsels of intricate flavors that come by cart, boisterous conversations, and hours of slow savoring.

My mom, my niece, and Number 3. These two are three days apart!

And of course, there was the Auntie (me) taking pics of the adorable nephew (Shepherd). Yes, Gap-model baby…

Delicious. I could eat him…with or without whipped cream. Slurp. Chomp. Yum.

The rest of the family got snapped as well. I finally captured some of my super-active 1.5 yr. old Number 5. He’s a character. And completely edible as well. These photos are gold to me!

My parents with all 9 of their grandkids.

If you have family nearby, don’t forget to hug them soon and share meals frequently. What grace it is to have family…near or far. We can make the most of whatever time we have together–even when it’s only 24 hours!

Visionary Parenting Review and Giveaway

Do you find yourself in a season of parenting and marriage where you need a re-focus of vision, purpose, and of what matters most in life?

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On my 14th wedding anniversary this summer, Troy and I were in Ft. Worth, TX, attending a NAUMS conference with fellow Board members of our school, and listening to the teaching of Dr. Rob Rienow of Visionary Family Ministries. We had no idea what an impact his encouragement to us would be that day. I couldn’t have known that the Lord would encourage my weary mothering heart through Dr. Rienow in such a compelling way so that I would clearly see God’s provision when finding out I was pregnant with our sixth several weeks later. There is nothing–NOTHING–that brings hope and motivation like biblical truth.

I’ve recently finished reading one of Dr. Rienow’s books, Visionary Parenting: Capture a God-Sized Vision for Your Family. It is so much more than a how-to book on correction and discipline…it is a power-packed book on the biblical vision for family. I so appreciate Dr. Rienow’s biblicity as well as his practical theology. These are some of the key issues the book address and gives encouragement for:

Your family as a discipleship center. 

A child learns what is important through the family schedule.

Do your kids love what you love?

Family worship is the intersection of a right relationship with God and a right relationship with family.

Family worship is the foundation of worship in the church.

Discipline that disciples is consistent.

Do these topics intrigue you? Do they feel convicting? They are to me.

And how about this…Dr. Rienow quotes Charles Spurgeon:

“The Christian family was the bulwark of godliness in the days of the puritans, but in these evil times hundreds of families of so-called Christians have no family worship, no restraint upon growing sons, and no wholesome instruction or discipline. How can we hope to see the kingdom of our Lord advance when His own disciples do not teach His gospel to their own children? Oh, Christian men and women, be thorough in what you do and know and teach! Let your families be trained in the fear of God and be yourselves ‘holiness unto the Lord’; so shall you stand like a rock amid the surging waves of error and ungodliness which rage around us.”

Sometimes as moms, we simply put one foot in front of the other, and press on in daily tasks, chores, and training of our children. Visionary Parenting is a mental break, an opportunity for you to reset your mind on what this is all about. It is both theological and practical, from one parent in the trenches to another.

I love the beginning of the last chapter in Visionary Parenting:

“We now need to extend our vision beyond our family and our children. God did not create the family as an end in itself. God’s purposes for your family and for your children reach far beyond the particular life you have together in this time and place.”

I couldn’t agree more! We are ultimately in the diligent work of training our children, raising our families, and striving as godly parents—not to simply have godly families we can be proud of or enjoy. No, we are called to a higher purpose for His glory and renown! I’m so thankful for Rob Rienow and Visionary Family Ministries, and for the work God is doing in this generation through their faithfulness to the Word of God.

I am thrilled to be giving away 2 amazing resource packages from Visionary Family Ministries. Here are the Giveaway Details…Enjoy!

I. Books

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Visionary Parenting: Capture a God-Sized Vision for Your Family, by Dr. Rob Rienow
Visionary Marriage: Capture a God-Sized Vision for Your Marriage, by Rob & Amy Rienow
When They Turn Away: Drawing Your Adult Child Back to Christ, by Rob Rienow

II. Videos

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VISIONARY FAMILY DVD SET BUNDLE – (Visionary Parenting, Visionary Marriage, Never Too Late, and Single Parenting)
(Valued at $199!)

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Back to School Fuel

“If the gospel does not influence our homes, it is little likely to make headway amongst the community.” -Charles Spurgeon
It all begins at home.

Our school board is in TX, soaking up encouragement at a conference for University-Model Schools:

…to be diligent in discipleship and worship in the home
…to fulfill the great commission starting with our own marriage and family
…to rest on the sufficiency of God’s Word
…to continue responding to the call of parent-based education with courage and excellence.

This week has served as great fuel for responding to the tasks the Lord has called us to. Are you struggling to love the work that must be done — whether it be starting your homeschool year, making difficult choices for your family, or simply tackling a chore at home? Regardless of the task, it all begins inside before it extends outside. The home must be nurtured for ministry to be furthered; the heart leads the the hands.

It all begins at home.

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Grateful (and Giveaway Winner!)

If you follow me on Facebook, you probably heard that I was supposed to meet my newest baby nephew for the first time this weekend up in Colorado Springs. The visit was canceled due to the massive devastation of the Waldo Canyon Fire.

While I’ve been aching to hold this little nugget :), I’m so very grateful that my brother’s family has not needed to evacuate, though the possibility has certainly been present all week. We continue to pray for all the families that have lost their homes, and have been impacted by these fires. We pray also for the many firefighters, families, and organizations that now fight to rescue and provide for these communities. May the Lord grant beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3).

And, I didn’t forget…

Thanks so much for participating in the Shabby Apple Giveaway!

Congratulations to Aileen, who is the winner!

 

Have a wonderful weekend, friends, and see you back here on Monday for our GraceLaced Mondays linkup! Join us! 

Helping Them Bring ‘Em Home

“A Christian understanding of the world sees a child’s character not as genetically determined but as shaped to a significant degree by parental discipleship and discipline.” — Russell Moore, Adopted For Life

Many dear friends in my life have adopted, are adopting, or are in the process of bringing their child home. So many of you, dear readers, share in a passionate heart for adoption…and today, I want to give you an opportunity to support and be a part of the adoption stories-in-the-making of a few families I’m connected to. Be blessed by their stories:

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THE METZGARS

We are a family of 5 soon to be 6 with the addition of our new daughter, Joy. Words cannot express the gratitude we feel toward our heavenly Father for adopting us into His family. It is out of our love for Him that we are answering the call to adopt Joy.

Our precious 3 year old daughter is waiting for us in an orphanage in China, and we will be traveling to go get her in August or September. We can’t wait to bring her home and show her the love of a family, a mommy and daddy and a sister and two brothers. We are ready to receive her into our clan and claim her as our own. Ultimately, our deepest desire is that she will come to know and understand the love of her heavenly Father. Adoption is an absolutely beautiful picture of what God has done for us through His Son. He has claimed us as His own. He has adopted us into His family. We have been purchased by Christ’s sacrifice. He has demonstrated His love for us that while we were still sinners He died for us. What joy we now have in Christ! JOY! That is the gift that God has given us.

We know that God gave us the name Joy for our little girl. It is our delight and joy to welcome her and accept her into our family. We are confident that God has a wonderful plan for what He is going to do in and through her life. We pray that her life will bring glory to Him! We are trusting God for His perfect timing and for the resources to complete our adoption. We can hardly begin to say “thank you” to everyone who is supporting us financially and holding us up in prayer. We have complete trust that where He guides He provides!

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.” John 14:18

The Metzgars are selling Christian and adoption-focused apparel to help bring Joy home:

Please visit the shop Zoe Clothing Co. to purchase great clothing for the whole family! 

During your checkout please type in “joy”. 25% of all sales will go towards this adoption.  $15 of each adoption shirt will also go towards their adoption.

You can read more about The Metzgars adoption journey at their blog.

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THE BYRDS

Our story begins with a little girl. Her name is Sydney and she was our second child and first daughter. She was born still in November of 2007 and then began our grief journey and fight for joy and God’s purpose in death with His restorative love. Caring and loving the fatherless through adoption is a part of His restorative love plan.

In a perfect world, we wouldn’t even need adoption because no child would be orphaned or neglected or left behind. But sadly, that’s our reality. Yet, in His gracious and redemptive ways, God uses adoption to bring beauty from ashes, unity from brokenness and joy from mourning. We’ve felt the call to adopt for some time, as we went through our own mourning and knew He had a bigger plan for it all. Instead of trying again and again to grow our family on our own, we knew that pain and brokenness and grief was a part of the orphan’s story, a pain that we could identify with and we began to see how God was weaving the two stories together. We knew that we wanted to be a part of His caring for the least of the these and the fatherless by praying that He would allow us to redeem not replace, restore not just fix, and most importantly allow Him to bring beauty from both sets of ashes and that He would receive ALL the glory.

We wrote a song, over four years in the making, about our Sydney Grace and it’s our prayer that it not only glorifies God but encourages others to remember that “Jesus came to make the sad untrue”…We believe adoption is one of the ways He does that. It is our prayer that as people listen to our song, that they would feel moved to want to help others, in adoption, and in helping us bring home our second daughter, be a part of the redeeming process themselves. What a sweet blessing! From our family…our two sweet boys, who wait to meet their newest sister, me and my husband who long to see God get the glory in our story, our precious Sydney Grace and from so many other families that are walking this adoption journey, we thank you. WE pray blessings and joy upon you, as you join us in this beautifully restorative love journey!!

The Byrds are offering this original download to raise support for their adoption:

Listen and download “Sydney’s Song” here.

You can connect with the Byrd family through their blog.

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THE JENSENS

We have 2 biological children and we adopted Maggie from Russia 2.5 years ago. And we said, that MAYBE we’d adopt again SOMEDAY… when the kids are all older, but now…

We are in the process of adopting a 6 year old boy from Uganda. Both of his biological parents are deceased. God brought this little boy across our computer screens in the Fall, and immediately my husband Gabe said ‘yes!’ and I was much more apprehensive, but prayed. and prayed. After about a week, of God whispering ‘of course I want him in your family’ I agreed. So, now we wait. We have all of the paperwork completed, and it is in Uganda, we are just waiting for our court date to be set. We are hopeful that it will be this summer, but again we are waiting for the Lord’s timing, because He knows whats best even when we are impatient.

It seems that our SOMEDAY, is God’s TODAY.

The Jensens are selling these products to raise funds to bring their boy home from Uganda:

Magazine Bead Necklaces

The Karamojong women create these beautiful necklaces by hand and from re-cycled paper, with the goal of helping these women maintain sustainable income for their families. Learn more about these necklaces here. $20

Burlap Bag

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Brown Baseball Hat

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Please contact the Jensens at gelaine3 at gmail.com to purchase any of the above items.

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I trust you have been blessed by the testimony of these families. The Lord be glorified! Please consider purchasing one or all of the opportunities above and be a part of God’s faithfulness through adoption!

Needing Mom

Sometimes you just need your mom.

This past weekend, I needed…

a superhero babysitter
someone who’d find my baby as delicious as I do
a helping hand in the kitchen
empathy and sympathy
unwavering support for my husband
a listening ear
someone to belly laugh with
a shoulder to cry on
girlie makeover partner
a prayer warrior
…a friend.

And this past weekend…my mom traveled over 1,000 miles to provide, in all these ways and more. I needed her, but I think she needed me need her too.

A mother-daughter relationship is often earned through strife, tears, forgiveness, and time. Ours is no different.

A satisfying relationship with my mom is not the absence of conflict; it’s the presence of peace. It doesn’t rest upon what we don’t say, but what we learn to communicate. And, this weekend, our relationship did not recall how strong we convinced ourselves to be without each other, but welcomed the need…and the provision.

May you go deeper and further in all your relationships today.

*******We’ve been preparing our home and hearts for Advent…Did you read my guest post yesterday on Annalea Hart? Join me tomorrow for a guest post all the way from the other side of the globe!********

If These Walls Could Speak

Our family’s been out of town for a few days, taking a little time to just be “us” at our favorite mountain town. We were so honored to be offered a house to stay at (all 7 of us!), free of charge. We don’t know the owner of the house personally, but we were told he had lost his wife, but was now re-married, and thus–the second home. What a blessing to be gifted with time away as a family.

You can learn a lot about someone by the books he reads and the photos on his walls. The house tells the story of a man of faith, a man with loving children and sweet grandchildren who are now teenagers. The pictures and decor speak of a life that has known the faithful love of a woman’s touch, and the rich heritage of multi-generations. This is a home that values experiences and relationships over perfection and advancement. In this home, comfort lies in the extra soft linens that have welcomed many a weary head…and not in technology (no internet, cable, or even a colored tv!) Instead of being “plugged in,” our time was spent outdoors, sipping on tea, and telling stories (The Preacher is an amazing story-teller!)

And yet, as I looked at the smiling faces of photos from decades gone by, I couldn’t help but consider the loss this family’s endured–the loss of a mother, a loving wife, a tender grandmother. Every home has a story to tell–all could speak of love and loss, trials and victory, joy and suffering.

I wonder what my home speaks of? as it is now? as it will be in years to come?

The start of the holiday season has a fascinating way of bringing all our memories, year after year, to the forefront of our minds. It’s almost like we experience a virtual scrapbook of our lives, or at least of the past year, as we celebrate and ring in the new. Whether we are deliberate about it or not, we are building something in each of our families–we are building memories, building a home, building the testimony of a life lived either for God, or for ourselves.

I can’t say I really know the owner of this charming house we’ve been guests of, but I can say that it has left us an impression of love, of family, of hope in God, of pressing on, of living forward while giving thanks for the past.

May your Thanksgiving be a time of that kind of home-building.